Everything we do each day is to reach certain goals. As long as we learn to love the process no matter how much of a grind it may seem, we will reach our goals and accomplish more in between.
In poker, good players say “don’t be results oriented.” If we lose with pocket aces after pushing all-in preflop, then we have already WON because that is the right move. Know that winning is not the end; making the right move on every play IS the end.
Enjoy the process of getting to our goals, and embrace it.
Do you realize how little time you have in the scheme of things? – Stephen King
Have a bottle of water by the bed, and drink it every morning. Your body needs water after dehydrating itself through a full night’s rest.
Water will help jump start your mornings.
Will, drive, and motivation gets you far. But with no clear path to take, you will never move forward.
In front of you, there are many doors. Behind each door are opportunities of a lifetime. However, most people choose not to go through any doors, and they stay right where they are. Stagnating.
Pick a door, pick something and just stick to it. No matter which door you choose, your life will move forward.
Write down a list of goals you want to get done this month. It could be something simple, such as:
1) Shoot 10 free throws without missing
2) Finish language lessons
Your motivation must be coupled with clarity of thought. Your gains and achievements are directly proportional to the amount of time you spend pursuing goals you are absolutely clear about. So write them down.
Next, commit specific daily activities to the goals you wish to accomplish. Every day will be a step closer to what you want to achieve. Move forward with a greater sense of direction.
Before you do anything, count to 3.
1.. 2.. 3.. Do it.
The magic behind the process is that counting is easy, but action is hard. Counting to 3 acts as a trigger for getting stuff done.
Examples of easy associations for the trigger:
- 1.. 2.. 3.. Get out of bed
- 1.. 2.. 3.. Brush teeth, shower
- 1.. 2.. 3.. Eat, drink
- 1.. 2.. 3.. Go to sleep
This is where you want the trigger to help you to take action:
- 1.. 2.. 3.. Read a book
- 1.. 2.. 3.. Hit the gym
- 1.. 2.. 3.. Do the task that you have been avoiding
Now, your brain is wired to start an action with a trigger.
Smartphones, tablets, computers, and all sorts of electronic devices have our attention daily.
Too often than not, we allow ourselves to become passive consumers of such devices when we are walking down the street or waiting for an elevator; leaving us less present to everything else around us. As a result, we lose the appreciation of what we have, such as a stable home surrounded by family and friends, or a cloudy overcast over the city with a light drizzle, or the time to make lunch.
- Leave your phone in your pocket, only check on it when you have a call.
- Use your computer for work, and certain tasks. Don’t sit by it aimlessly.
- Set a time for television instead of leaving it on. Watch what you want to watch, and be done with it.
Being present allows you to relax, focus on, and appreciate what is now.
Your brain is like a pet where it gets easily distracted by shinny objects. Every time you force it to do something, it gets mad and fights back.
The key is to align your brain’s goals with your goals. The brain wants to play all the time.
“Finish your work before you play.” Do you remember your parents saying that? Then you somehow miraculously always manage to finish your work diligently without a second thought because your mind is focused on playing.
Before you force yourself to do anything your brain does not want to do, think of a reward involving the concept of play for your brain.
Can’t get up at 6AM in the morning for a run? No problem, think of the endurance you will be building up, the pounds you will be shedding, the cool breeze against your skin, and all the fit joggers who have come out to play with you.
Can’t focus on reading for an hour? No problem, think of the cool things you could do with your new found knowledge, the amazing conversations with your friends about the revelations that you have discovered, and the opportunities that will open up for you.
Can’t follow through on your goals? No problem, think of the fun roles that you will be playing in the future, the positive social acceptance you will be accruing, and how easy life would be with your goals attained.
Your brain is your pet and yours only. It will do what you want it to do, when it is on play mode all the time.
Are you spending an evening watching your favorite shows, or browsing some websites? Then say that you are too busy to study or work on your projects?
How could you change this?
Take an inventory of your time to see where the majority of it has gone. Start to eliminate the time wasting activities that stand out the most.
Always make time to complete the most important things first.
Everything in life can be replenished, but time is not.
The status quo of avoiding failure
It is natural for wanting to breeze through problem solving because then the learning process takes up very little time. Allowing us greater freedom to enjoy the simpler activities such as watching TV.
When we make mistakes, it slows down the learning process while building frustration and annoyance until we give up. We don’t fail enough.
Do a 180, start liking failure
So we failed and made mistakes on a couple of complex problems. So what? It is human nature to fail until we get it right. Enjoy failure for what it is, and never let it hold you back.
Why like failure? Because failure is everywhere. For example, babies fall while taking their first steps is the purest form of failure, but it never stops any baby from learning to walk. Appreciate that it is okay to fail because its effects are at most temporary.
Why do you go to the gym?
- Get in better shape
- Attain a healthier lifestyle
- To fill out a tank top
- Finish 5K under 20 minutes
- 30 pullups
- Bench press 1.5 times your own body weight
The vague goals you are never going to reach. It is the same when you say you want more money and success.
The finite goals you can work towards completion. Instead, you say you want to make a million dollars by building a brand, and have success by creating brand awareness. At the end of the process, you could have your million dollars and more.